Unconditional Love

I have a tag line, it is more like a question. It is on top of my blog. It reads: “If you where asked to draw love, how would you draw it?”

Before I get into unconditional love, let me explain what love is. To be scientific, love is a hormone. Did you know chocolate creates love hormones? No wonder everybody loves it. Also science now tells us that love is a learnt process in the brain. We learn to love the same way we learn to fear, the same way we learn to walk. Well this is in fact true. I strongly agree that the love you feel for your favourite chocolate or movie, your partner or your child is a message just coming from your brain. Your brain tells you that she is so beautiful, then it sends a message to your stomach and your stomach responds with butterflies. You see your new born for the first time and she looks so beautiful, so small and so cute, your brains creates the message “this is my baby, I love it so much”.

Well, yes, this is the reality of conditional love, just messages coming from the brain. As soon as you find out that your partner cheated on you, you get so angry, there it is, all the love is gone. Only attachment stays – oh I miss her, we did have good moments you know, but he is so perfect, I love her, I should give her another chance. Pure brain and pure conditional love. It is the reality that the way we’ve learnt to love is purely conditional on certain things fitting the criteria; he is so tall and hansom, she is so beautiful and slim.

Unconditional love is a love that is not learned through conditional processes such as cause and effect, physical contact or looks. In other words unconditional love is a love that radiates purely to give, without a reason without a condition. It’s a giving that is not based on received or perceived satisfaction acquired from giving it. It does not come from the 5 senses nor is received from them. Unconditional love does not come from the brain. It comes from the heart. I’m telling you: how you love and the love you receive is 99.99% conditional. I say this with confidence because feeling of unconditional love is so powerful, it is so amazing that if you had felt it you would have known that there is difference. Isn’t it time to stop for a second and ask yourself is that true? Ask yourself is conditional love the only thing you want to give while you live on planet earth?

Because of our conditional upbringing, we learnt to shut out our hearts and widely open our brains. If you wish to experience unconditional love - the most amazing force in the universe - then you will have to learn how to open your heart. When your heart opens for the first time after it closed many many years ago, its feeling, its power and its mightiness is so amazing, is so beautiful that you will never ever want to love conditionally again.

I’m not going to tell you how to open your heart. But if you have the thirst for it, if you are curious, if you feel that you want it. You will seek it. You will find the articles on the internet or books or people that feel right to you and nobody else.

Why should you believe me? Well don’t. Don’t until you have experienced it. You shouldn’t believe anything unless you have experienced it. It is like a scientific experiment; it has a hypothesis, it has a method and results that have been confirmed by the community of people who took the hypothesis and followed the method. It is like an orgasm; before you’ve had your first orgasm you have no idea what it feels like. You can imagine, but you don’t know. You know it can happen, you find yourself a lover, you follow the method with pleasure and then comes the result that has been confirmed by all the people who have had sex.

If it feels right to you, take it, if it doesn’t then it is probably not right for you.